Birdnesting is not necessarily a common child custody solution, in part because of the expense. But it is unique, and it can offer some benefits to couples who can afford it.
The term birdnesting comes from the fact that your children do not actually have to leave the family home after divorce. They continue to live there, in the “nest”, just like they did when you were married. This can give them more stability and cut down on the amount of travel time for the children. After the divorce, children may feel like their personal lives are relatively similar to what they were when their parents were married, which can help with the transition.
So how do you and your ex share custody?
A traditional arrangement would have you and your ex share custody by transferring the children between your homes. But with birdnesting, you and your ex simply move in and out of the family house, where the children are always living. You take turns having custody and living in the home with them.
This is also why birdnesting can be expensive, though. When it is not your turn to have custody, you need to have another place to live. Your ex also has to have a second residence.
Birdnesting can also be complicated because you and your ex do still have to work closely together when sharing responsibilities in the family home with the children. You will need to figure out how to pay the mortgage, who does specific chores, who is responsible for maintenance, upkeep and repairs, and things of this nature.
So, while birdnesting is complex, it can be beneficial in certain situations. Parents who are interested just need to know what legal steps to take as they go through a divorce.