When you are dealing with a protection order during or after a divorce, the rules can feel strict. You are told not to make contact, but this can be conflicting when you are both still raising a child.
Life does not stop because of legal boundaries. You still have birthdays, school meetings and child hand-offs to manage. Therefore, it is so important to understand what counts as a violation.
Everyday things that could break the rules
Direct or indirect contact is usually banned if a protection order is in place. But that does not always mean just phone calls or in-person meetings. Be careful with the following:
- Text messages and emails: Even a short message like “Are you picking up the kids?” can be seen as a violation unless the court allows communication for parenting reasons. Always check the wording of your order.
- Using your child as a go-between: You might think sending a message through your child is harmless, but courts often view this as indirect contact. This can get you into trouble.
- Third-party communication: Asking a friend, relative or even a new partner to pass along a message is usually not allowed either.
- School events and public places: Accidentally running into the other parent at a school function may not be a violation if it is unplanned, but intentionally showing up to talk or watch them can cross the line.
- Social media posts: Subtle jabs or comments aimed at the other parent, even if they are not tagged, can be seen as indirect communication.
Even if it feels harmless during the moment, any of these actions can lead to serious legal consequences if they break the terms of your order.
If you are unsure whether something is okay, it is wise to hold off and talk to a legal representative. They can help you understand your order’s boundaries and how to safely co-parent within those limits.
