Co-parenting can be one of the biggest challenges for a divorcing couple. Some manage to make a relatively smooth transition, but some do not.
The smoother you can make working together, the better it will be for you and your children. Here are some tips that could help you overcome the challenges.
Remember who you are dealing with
The person you are dealing with is the same person you were married to. If they liked to wind you up or try and control you when they were your spouse, they will likely continue doing so as your co-parent. If they were a reasonable person who always wanted what was best for their child, they probably still are.
Remembering this can help you assess where they are coming from on certain issues and how to react. Are they saying a particular thing because they have a genuine concern, or to goad you into an unhealthy reaction?
Think before you speak
It’s easy to blurt out something in the heat of the moment that worsens the situation and that you later regret. Taking time to reflect before answering can help you avoid saying things you regret. Sometimes it is better to reduce face-to-face communication and handle things via emails, or a parenting app where it can be easier to stop and think before replying.
Think what is best for your child
Maybe your co-parent is late to pick the kids up again, making you late for your meeting. While you might feel like giving them a piece of your mind then and there, that’s not best for the children. It’s better for them if you talk to your co-parent about timekeeping another time when they are not present.
Co-parenting can be complicated, so a well-thought-out parenting plan is crucial as is understanding your options if things do not go as planned.
