Divorce is a complicated and emotionally charged time for anyone who goes through it. Between dealing with the legal aspects, the difficult decisions parents have to make and adapting to a new reality, it can often feel overwhelming and sometimes unbearable.
It is essential to remember that these difficulties will pass, and you will eventually adapt to your new post-divorce life, along with the rest of your family.
During the divorce process, however, when emotions run high and the pressure makes it difficult to cope, it is common to make mistakes that can unfortunately negatively impact the outcome of your divorce.
For these reasons, it is imperative to do your best to remain calm and avoid doing anything that could hurt your case. Common mistakes divorcing parties often make during the divorce process include:
Speaking ill of your spouse to your children
Divorce is often very emotional, and you may experience feelings of hurt, anger, fear and many other emotions that can seem insurmountable at times. Having an appropriate support system for yourself is critical so you do not rely on your children emotionally or speak ill of their other parent to them.
Courts most often make custody decisions based on the child’s best interests. It is not only essential to consider this fact when speaking with your children about their other parent but to also think of your child’s well-being and to keep in mind that the divorce is between you and your spouse.
Keeping important information from your attorney
Divorcing parties sometimes forget to share important information with their attorneys, and other times they fail to disclose essential facts because they are embarrassed or afraid that their attorney will judge them.
However, it is vital to understand that the more information you give your attorney, the more prepared they will be to defend your interests and advocate for you.
Allowing your emotions to run the show
Remaining emotionally centered during a divorce can seem difficult, if not impossible. However, with the right tools, you can find moments of calm and peace, allowing you to make better decisions for yourself, your children and your future.
Your feelings today may not be the same feelings you will experience a few months or years from now, which is why it is crucial to consider that emotions are passing and that making decisions with a level head will go a long way in making sure you do not have regrets in the future.
The process of divorce, both legally and emotionally, is draining and exhausting. Most people experience moments when they feel like they cannot go on and that the pressure is too much. It is helpful to have or build a robust support system, and if necessary, seek professional help so you can have the support you deserve and need during this difficult time.